We’re very glad you’ll be joining us on Saturday, March 4, 2017! You’ll find information about event logistics here. If you’re new to San Diego, we created a map of places we enjoy.


We will adhere to the Vietnamese wedding tradition wherein guests give monetary gifts to the couple as they visit tables during dinner. But if you really want to give us a lush vegetable farm with ample water, we would accept that.

What’s an appropriate gift amount? The idea behind giving cash gifts is that it will help the couple meet their needs to start a new life together. The traditional minimum is around what it cost to throw the wedding, divided by number of guests. A crude way to think of this is that each person’s “gift” would be covering the cost of them being at the wedding. This way the new couple isn’t beginning their partnership in debt. Beyond that, considerations are honeymoon fund, house down-payment, and other life expenses. Dodd-Frank might be repealed, so consider that!

This is a guide, not a demand. We invited you because we cherish your role in our lives and want to kick-off a fun, loving, interconnected future together by partying with you. Your participation in this once-in-a-MattMaife-time event is already a gift.


Your children are welcome! For infants, there is a nursing room and bathroom with a change station in a quiet section of the venue. There will also be a children’s room where they can play board games. Please feel free to bring games for kids to share.


Van Hanh Buddhist Temple

8617 Fanita Dr
Santee, CA 92071

11 AM – 12 PM

While the ceremony will be held in the Van Hanh Buddhist Temple, we welcome people with all spiritual beliefs. This is when we will share our commitments to each other, our families, and our community.

Dress code Nice, modest clothing that cover your shoulders, chest, and knees.

Parking The temple has a large parking lot and ample surrounding street parking.


Darlington House

7441 Olivetas Avenue
La Jolla, CA 92037

5:30 PM – 9:30 PM

Dress code Creative semi-formal. If it helps, know that Matt will wear a suit, not a tux. Mai will wear a sparkly white dress.

Parking Complimentary valet service will be provided between 5:30 PM and 9:30 PM.


Karaoke 101

7578 Clairemont Mesa Boulevard

San Diego, CA 92111

10:30 PM – 1 AM

9:30 PM is too early to end a party. That’s standard party time! Meet us at Karaoke 101 for more singing and dancing! Karaoke 101 allows guests to bring in outside food and drink, but no alcoholic beverages.